Some time ago I committed to writing a text for today, Friend Day ou International Friendship Day, after all, anyone who knows me knows how much I love each of mine and how important they are in my life. But by an “irony of fate” (the universe wanting to deliver its message) on the very day I needed to write, I was feeling like the loneliest person in the world, the friendless! Not that they don't exist, I know where each one is and that I can count on their help. But for various reasons, these days I've been feeling disconnected from them.
The date is approaching and the anguish increasing, because for me to write is to externalize what I keep inside. How was I going to talk about something that was so apathetic inside me? I wouldn't lie, but I also didn't want to say things that would hurt those I love so much. Unpretentiously, as a way of venting, I posted the following stories on Instagram: “How can you write about people and relationships in the most introspective moment of life?!”. And guess who was the light at the end of the tunnel? A dear friend! who answered me: "About your relationship with yourself huh!". When I read this, the penny dropped, and it was exactly what I needed to write, everything to do with this moment of mine.
I revere all my friends. Know that I am grateful, I love you and that the friendship of each one has a unique and fundamental role in my trajectory. But today I need to talk about that friendship that I forgot, and that you also probably, at some point in your life, have forgotten, our friendship with ourselves!
That welcomes, but that most of the time condemns, judges, blames, points the finger at the wound: “You see, who ordered you to act like this?”, “If you had dedicated yourself a little more…”, “No one sent that message!". We hardly comfort ourselves with messages of love: “Calm down, everything will be fine!”, “Don't worry, you did your best, it was an excellent job!” or “You're a fucking woman, he's an idiot!”.
So, I invite you who are reading this text to a constant exercise: Recognize in you your best friend, your best company. Toast this wonderful friendship, make peace and don't allow anyone to get in this relationship. I started this process yesterday after this insight and with slow but steady steps, we are getting back together, and today we will open a wine to celebrate our friendship!
I know, sometimes it's harder than it seems, but true friendships are like that, no matter how shaken they may have been, they will always find a way to get closer.
For that and for everything else, Happy Friend's Day! To my best and to everyone who is part of me and my life!
Namaste.
