In the same way that we do this reading of people all the time, we also go through the same sieve, and many times, it can be cruel and even unfair on both parties. The problem is that it is difficult to undo a first impression.
And what do I care?
At that moment you may ask yourself: “But what do I care what others are thinking of me?”. Well, in some situations in our everyday life it can really have little significance, but be aware that situations may occur that will decide important factors, such as your career, a new relationship or a new friend.
The curious thing, and what has been shown by research, is that people, when evaluating the other, give much more importance to the initial insights than for the information they receive later.
we are biased
People tend to draw general conclusions from groups and people without knowing them. We see this clearly when we label them as belonging to a certain religion, or when we classify those who support that football team as violent, and even when because of the beauty of a person I believe that all their actions will also be beautiful and positive.
And why is it so hard to undo a first impression?
It's difficult because we tend to believe our intuition about that person, often ignoring real facts.
Therefore, the big question is: how to transmit a positive impact in that second half that we have to make a good first impression and that can establish positive links with the other?
Things that don't go out of style
Worrying about your image can bring you many other benefits, such as self-esteem, security, happiness, a sense of belonging and self-acceptance.
And what would such a good look be like? We will always have a “it depends”… Here we can go on for hours in a discussion, so keep the following word in mind: common sense! Having common sense will help you to dress appropriately for the occasion, being well dressed, having style, without necessarily being stuck in brands or beauty standards dictated by society, being you and marking your presence with your image in the world. .
Your behavior also defines you
Your behavior is as important as your image., as both can compromise you if “turns and moves” there are slips such as explosive behavior in a queue or with an attendant at the supermarket. Impulsive reactions can be fatal to your reputation and you could be branded as a rude and ill-mannered person. If you want to take care of your good image, you can't be too careful, so here's an invitation to reflect on the behaviors and attitudes that can affect your personal and professional life, because in the work environment you need to be extra careful in your relationship with people. .
But that's a topic for our next chat! Write it down: Etiquette at work. How is your image in the corporate world?
Sometimes we make mistakes and the first impression always has a direct effect on our image. This cannot be denied. But it doesn't have to be definitive, if this happened, know that it is possible to change, acting in your favor and carefully undoing possible misunderstandings.
Big hugs, dear!
