You need to be very clear about what you want to impose. Changing your mind all the time can make your child confused and less confident. Check out some tips to set limits and not feel bad:
1 – Fulfill what you promise
In order to impose limits on children, it is essential that parents fulfill what they have promised. This is one of the biggest complaints of children, the non-fulfillment of what the parents proposed to do.
2 – Set rules
Not that every family relationship is just rules-based. But if they exist, they need to be clear and to be complied with by both parties. Don't change the rules from one hour to another, without everything being agreed or settled.
3 – Don’t Threaten
If the child does not fulfill the promise, do not keep threatening, this will only make him feel angry or resentful towards the parents. When this happens, it is imperative that parents are safe and calm, as they need to dedicate more time to clarifying things and having a frank conversation.
4 – Speak with confidence
A common parenting mistake is to command, explain, laughing, not looking in the eye, or talking and doing something else. The kids end up thinking that it's not that important, because you didn't even feel like sitting down and explaining. Another mistake is parents being in disagreement. So the child gets confused and will always try to be on the side of the one he believes defends him. At this time, clarity, security and patience make any warning well said and without any doubt.
5 – Ask only once
You don't have to keep saying the same thing ten times, or screaming as if the child isn't heard. Yes, she listened. She just didn't hear if she was fiddling with her cell phone or playing. So, when you say something to her, call her to a corner and explain it clearly and safely.
6 – United parents
If the family lives together, it is important to have a dialogue and an equal response to things. When parents are united, the child ends up having more respect towards both of them. What cannot happen is one affirming one thing and another saying that it is not so. This only facilitates the misunderstanding of the parents and the non-compliance on the part of the children.
7 – Do and ask for help
Believe in yourself. A conversation, attracting attention will not make your child stop loving you. It is essential to set limits, as this is an act of love. Children need to respect their parents, just as you respected yours. If it doesn't happen now, it will be difficult in adolescence. If you have difficulties, don't hesitate to ask for help, from a friend or a therapist.
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