That marriage is no longer part of many people's lives as a sure plan has been around for a while, but recently there has been a growing number of men who do not intend to maintain a lasting relationship with someone simply because they believe that life was meant to be. lived. It's called Simon's Syndrome, which affects a generation of men between the ages of 28 and 38 who don't seem to have acquired any emotional maturity.
They are usually well resolved in life: they have financial stability, a good job and they really like themselves, they just don't intend to get really involved with anyone. The acronym Simon shows each of the characteristics of these men: S for single, I for immature, M for materialistic, O for obsessed with work, and N for narcissistic. These are the main characteristics of those who live with Simon's syndrome. It's a kind of Narcissus myth of the new millennium.
Without the maturity to deal with adult life, these men want to live in constant party, spending the money they earn on travel, clothes, clubs and often with women, but without long-term emotional involvement. It's like they're living a late adolescence with no time to end. Without attachment to feelings, they can live with their parents or alone for the rest of their lives, but they can't imagine sharing a roof with a loving partner.
They live with the idea that the “I” is more important than anything else and do not measure efforts to achieve professional and personal success, mainly through the physical. They are obsessed with their appearance and can spend much more than a woman on gym, beauty treatments, cosmetics and clothes; in addition to having a care that borders on the obsessive with food.
They spend hours in front of the mirror admiring the muscles that they have sculpted with great care or arranging their hair in millimetrically made hairstyles. Psychology shows that they can't really get emotionally involved with anyone because they haven't developed the maturity necessary to deal with other people's desires, wants and needs, as they are only concerned with their own belly button.
The treatment can be done together with psychology professionals, as it takes a long and meticulous work until the person becomes aware that the chosen lifestyle can become a problem.
Text written by Roberta Lopes from the Eu Sem Fronteiras Team.
