By following my habits, I noticed how much time I dedicate to my self-knowledge and practices of spiritual and emotional balance: I currently do a daily exercise of chakra harmonization, a meditation guided by Deepak Chopra that lasts 21 days, reading a book related to the subject and some Access® questions to help me manifest the life I want. I also do a weekly therapy session for the mind and one through the body (dance), exchanges with friends discussing topics as they arise. Every week my therapist recommends documentaries and videos to watch, and I consider the texts I write as part of this work as well.
Other than that, of course, I have to take care of my college studies, my house, my relationship and my work.
I know people who do much more: the other day I read about a person who works with healing and who said he invests two hours a day in cleaning his channel with the therapist.
The fact is that self-knowledge takes time, there's no way around it. We live in a world where you expect immediate results: do you remember dial-up internet, when you had to wait a long time to get a connection, and it dropped all the time? Now if the internet fails for two seconds, we are already frustrated.
The vacation trip that used to take days can now be done in two hours, in the comfort of a plane. If the plane says it's going to be half an hour late, we get frustrated.
We ended up taking this into our development: we want immediate results. We want to do a meditation for three days and change a state of dissatisfaction that we have nurtured for a lifetime. We want to go on a weekend retreat and leave enlightened. If this result doesn't come that fast, we give up.
This was very clear to me in relation to my work: few people are qualified to do a 10-week Coaching process, in which we say: “the responsibility is all yours: the result will depend on whether you have taken the established actions during the week ”.
My healing work is much more accepted: the person doesn't have to do anything, I'm the one who works on the purification of my channel during the week, I prepare the environment and I sit down for 50 minutes to do the work. It is rare for people to ask me: “Dulci, besides this session, what else can I do to achieve the result?”. These are the most successful cures.
Alan Watts, in the Ted Talk on the Universe of Emotions, says that most people park on the nine-year-old. You may have your job, your family, but you're still a nine-year-old, with those wants and dissatisfactions. And what does a nine-year-old want? A magic wand.
There are those who will say: “I don't have that time, I work from eight to six, I have children, etc”. I can think of two other possibilities, in one of them, you turn off Netflix and WhatsApp and start with five minutes a day where you just listen to yourself, nothing more. You take a breath and ask yourself, “What am I feeling?”, simple as that.
Then you can evolve into, “Why am I feeling this?” or “What caused this feeling?”, little by little this practice will become natural, you will find yourself doing it without having to sit down. This alone will make a big difference in your life, as it will put you in a state of presence and awareness, and not living as if things just happen without you having control (or responsibility) over them.
The other possibility I can see is: do you really want to live a life where you don't have time to get to know yourself? You want to look back one day and say, “I couldn't work on my self-knowledge. I was too busy paying my mortgage”? If the answer is no, just open yourself to the possibility that there is another way.
You can just drop that question to the Universe every morning: "How can I live a life where I have an abundance of resources and time?"
Deepak Chopra says, “Time is flexible and expandable”. There's his magic wand! Start with this, and then use the time you gain to do the work necessary for your evolution.
