As a child, who was never warned by an adult who, worried about our friendships, gave us biblical advice: “tell me who you hang out with and I will tell you who you are”. Considering that in the case of human relationships, there is no complete accuracy. Obviously, even more in our intellectual formation, that companies have a great influence on our development, it is not decisive that they will necessarily shape someone's character.
And to what extent exactly can the relationship with them affect us? In the case of something negative, observation is facilitated when the action is committed intentionally. But that doesn't always happen, by the way, correcting, it's often not intentional that a person's bad action affects us. The fact is that we can be impacted by negative energies, even if this charge is in the subconscious of the person who hits us.
Our positive characteristics attract people who value these qualities of ours, therefore, in theory, they also have good references and causing the possibility of the beginning of a fruitful friendship. The problem is that our good points do not only attract individuals with qualities, partially breaking the biblical premise cited in the first paragraph.
When we use the term "toxic person" it is to illustrate someone who harms or delays our development, even if it is not the intention of these negative energy people.
For example: if you have the quality of being a generous person, one of the noblest and most worthy qualities of a human being, a toxic person is one who takes advantage of your positive trait to benefit from you. In this case, the toxic person would be the one who would ask you to do everything for them, even if they were fully capable of doing so, because they know that your generosity will not let them down.
Generally speaking, the most effective tip for dealing with toxic people is learning to say no to them. We are all human beings and we have a multitude of daily tasks, so it is necessary to select our priorities and, if necessary, say no in order for that really fundamental thing to be accomplished.
- Written by Diego Rennan of Team Eu Sem Fronteiras.
