I spent my adolescence and part of my adult life criticizing my mother.
I thought she was a pain in the ass, who just picked on me wanting to control everything. She wanted to meet my friends, my friends' parents and whom I hung out with, attended every school meeting and made a point of talking privately with each teacher. As a teenager she didn't let me live in my little private world, my room, like many friends who lived locked in their rooms, feeling independent and having their privacy respected. When I started college, she would occasionally look through my material to make sure I was attending classes. She pressured me to get to work, and to my surprise she demanded that I commit to paying some bill for our household expenses. Since I wanted to spend all my money on my things, my pampering, my ballads.
One cold afternoon she left this world… It seemed that I was under anesthesia, I didn't understand that she had died, that we would no longer have her presence at home. I confess that a mixture of feelings took over me: fear, relief, guilt, independence.
Years later I came to understand that my mother loved me and was just taking care of me, which I myself didn't do so well, even when I became an adult. It was only after many "falls" in life and therapies that I came to recognize her value, the value of her attitudes and stop blaming myself for being so rude to her and not enjoying her company more."
How many children brood for years on their ingratitude towards their mother?
How many mothers, before leaving, cry the pain of their children's disrespect?
We know that father and mother are not perfect, they are beings in evolution like all other beings, but children often demand perfection from them. And the mother feels super demanded, by society, religion, by her own family and by her children.
In demanding perfection from their parents, many children spend their entire lives looking back at the past, regretting what they didn't get and devaluing what they got from their parents.
Mother and father give what they have to give, what they know how to give. It is very important to remember that they gave you life, that is, what you have most valuable was they who gave you.
Stop complaining, get along with your parents, do everything you can so that an understanding can arise while they are alive, because you came from them. So when they leave the world – and someday they, you and all of us will – you won't feel guilty, you won't regret it, and you'll know that you did everything you could to resolve your difficulties with them. In this way, you strengthen yourself and start to walk in life looking forward, to the future and producing better results as a way of thanking mom and dad.
Take care of Quantum Kinesiology and Family Constellation, give this gift to your mother, she will be very happy that you are happy.
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