It is part of being human to feel wanted, desired and loved. But when you are looking for the ideal person, you are actually looking for someone who represents all that the person himself is, unconsciously, or what he seeks to be and doesn't know, or who denies being without realizing it.
When a person finds someone who “molds” themselves to them, passion happens, that passionate love, capable of doing crazy things. The tendency is for a mixture to happen, which ends up leading to depersonalization as individuals. It's no wonder that at the height of passion, the couple goes on their honeymoon. Imagine yourself living inside a moon, full of honey. Impossible, it is impossible to know who is who.
After some time, the person begins to realize that the prince – or the princess, is no longer enchanted, that he is no longer the way he had seen it the first time. In this process of recognition, the couple has the possibility to stop seeing themselves in the other and really see the other the way they are. This is a very difficult phase in a relationship, because if there is no love, only criticism, demands and insecurities remain, often culminating in separation.
But how to cultivate love?
It is important that the person always tries to analyze himself so as not to be confused with the other, which is not always easy. Therefore, cultivating self-love, respecting individualities, is also taking care of the relationship. Talking very frankly about what you feel, what you think, putting your point of view (even if it is contrary to what the other thinks), knowing how to listen, sharing, dating, letting yourself fall in love with the little things, looking for the other side Good. It's patience, it's understanding what's not good and not being afraid to be happy. It is not simply, on a special day of the year, buying a gift and giving it to the loved one; it is being able to know yourself through the other to transmute. It's learning to separate to be able to walk together.
Therefore, finding the loved one ready, without cutting yourself internally, is not like calling for a delivery.
