broken promises
All people have been through the situation of promising something to themselves and not being able to deliver. Usually at the beginning of a new cycle: a new year, a new month or even a new week, we set goals to improve quality of life, physical and mental health, professional performance and personal satisfaction.
Starting to practice physical exercises, changing eating habits, waking up earlier in the morning, starting to read an important book for your work, taking a few hours to practice a hobby and changing your attitude towards your partner, partner or family, are some of the most common promises we make to ourselves. However, many of these promises are kept for a few days or weeks and are not kept. This situation generates feelings of frustration, incompetence and low self-esteem.
Why don't we achieve the expected result?
Why are we often unable to organize ourselves to comply with the plan? Did you lack discipline? Was the will not enough? Did you lack spirit and disposition? How many times have you asked yourself this question?
The answer is simpler than we often imagine: we must change the way we act. However, this is not what usually happens.
repeated behaviors
You create, for example, a timesheet to better organize your time and it works for a week only, then it falls by the wayside, what most people tend to do is: within a month, or other period of time, re-create a similar timesheet and try to apply the same way as the first. The result is that this new attempt also fails.
In this case, there was no change in attitude. The behavior was repeated in both situations, so it was expected that the result would be the same. What happens is that we often don't stop to reflect on it, we try hard and spend a lot of energy without any results.
changing behavior
Promoting a change in behavior is not simple. It requires a reflection on your beliefs and values.
It's important to check which of them are positive for you and which no longer serve you, it's important to study about other patterns of behavior and thinking that can be beneficial for you and make an effort to implement them.
Some beliefs and behaviors accompany us for many years and it is not easy to stop thinking or acting a certain way in just a few months.
The help of a mental health professional can be very helpful in this process. The psychologist can conduct reflections and help you discover your answers. In addition to being a person who will accompany you throughout your process and help you maintain motivation and discipline so that your plans do not fall into oblivion.
