Do you really want to solve this problem?

People often come to me and say: I am experiencing such a problem. So, I propose: let's evaluate your past, because, for sure, we will find the root of the current problem.

And I discover that one of the biggest problems comes from situations where there is a lack of forgiveness...

What is more common is that I hear:

“But you don't know what they did to me!”, some defend themselves. Or, hiding the real pain, they say: “Imagine, I already put a stone on this and I don't even remember anymore!”.

But what many people really do is run away from the reality of their pain and offer true forgiveness to themselves, for having been deceived, and to the other, who hurt them.

So when I take someone back to that moment and I tell that person to forgive those who hurt you, I always hear: “But he doesn't deserve my forgiveness, I can't forgive him!”, I can only tell him one thing: forgive for you because you deserve it. You deserve the peace that forgiveness provides.

Look at the biggest scar on your body now, evaluate the history of that scar, see the size of that scar, touch it, squeeze it, did you do that?

So, did it hurt?

Do you know why? Because the scar healed, it healed in the right way, but the lack of forgiveness for a situation, for a person, when you remember the situation hurts, even if you pretend everything is okay.

But when you are truly unwilling to forgive, the hurt takes root within you, gradually turns into resentment, which turns into victimization, until we reach the “I am not worthy” stage.

You may wonder: what do you mean, it wasn't just a problem of unforgiveness to my father, my mother, my ex-husband, my ex-wife or whoever?

It was, but in the current problems, how are you reacting?

You become the resentful one who always blames someone else for everything that happens around you.

You are the one who victimizes yourself, always putting the blame on everything and everyone.

You are the undeserving, erasing your future and being stuck in the past, you lose the meaning of life in the present. Everything has passed, but you can't go anywhere.

Go back to your past and appreciate where you were marked, genuinely forgive, forgive and be grateful. And then move on to the next phase, the phase where you start to feel worthy of everything the universe can offer you abundantly.

Free yourself from your own bonds.

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