You've taken several trips together. They fought a lot over bullshit until they understood each other. Today, they are able to communicate by looking. The relationship has matured, the desire to have a life in common only grows, but don't you want to “marry on a past paper”? Would you love the idea of live with boyfriend, but are you scared? Here are 6 tips to take this important step safely.
Journey to the center of finance
The fact of not signing a paper does not mean being free of commitments. Before gather toothbrushes, you and he need to talk about money. Many couples skip this step and then fight—even break up—because they don't know each other's financial past. So you don't run the risk of seeing your love go down the drain, sit down and open the game about:
- Salary;
- investments;
- Credit card limits;
- debts;
- How much will each collaborate;
- Who will pay what;
stable union
The new Civil Code points out that it has the same value as marriage. After two years of living together, the relationship is governed by the community of property regime, which means that the assets acquired after living together will be divided in the event of separation, the children will be entitled to alimony and inheritance and the widower will also will receive pension and inheritance. In cases of discrepancies, the Court considers proof of joint account, witnesses and income tax return. If you think better, consult a lawyer to prepare a stable union contract.
division of tasks
If the namorido is messy, make it clear that you will not be a maid. Make a schedule with the division of tasks! When the two of you collaborate to maintain the house, the more time you have to date.
learn to share
If you're bossy, you'll have to change. From the simplest to the most complex, you will have to talk before making any decision.
You are not identical
Just because you live together doesn't mean you have to do everything together. Do not abandon programs with friends. Preserving individuality is everything.
Understand: It won't be a fairy tale
Some days will be boring. If before, both rocked the look, get ready for disheveled hair, sloppy clothes, wrinkled face and no makeup. You won't feel like cuddling every day. The bad mood of the other, which seemed funny, will lose its fun. You'll want to grab the wet towel on the bed and smack him. The overwhelming lust of dating will not always show up and there will be days when one will want to sleep and the other will want to watch television. The fairy tale is not everyday, but when it does, it will be in the little things.
Living together with boyfriend not easy, but it can be enriching. After all, happiness is being together!
- Text written by Sumaia de Santana Salgado from the Eu Sem Fronteiras Team.
