If there's anything in this world that isn't simple, it's relationships. In most cases, living with parents and siblings, as difficult as it may be, ends up being well managed because there is an inseparable blood bond. Whether you like it or not, your family bond will be maintained forever, so it's always wise to reinforce those bonds and resolve problems that arise. When it comes to a boyfriend, fiancé or husband, the resolution is not that simple, since there is the option of breaking this bond and each one going their own way. So what is more prudent? Strengthen the bond or start over?
Considering that 99,9% of people do not start a relationship by stipulating an expiration date, then the definition of the poet Vinicius de Moraes' thought “May it be eternal while it lasts” is very accurate in this type of situation. If you're not absolutely sure that your relationship has ended, every effort to repair or strengthen the bond is justifiable.
So how to proceed so that you don't even have the need to review your affective bond with your partner? When it comes to a long relationship, it is practically inevitable that habits need to be revised so that the relationship remains harmonious and that its essence, the one that seduced both of you in the beginning, is preserved.
The best way to do this is to build the relationship as if it were a house: brick by brick every day. You don't build a big room all at once and then sit for weeks with the work abandoned. Everything goes little by little, so a solid foundation is built that will have greater resistance to the storms that will come ahead.
And how to do it? Sharing each of the moments whenever possible. It is not by chance that in marriage it is said that the couple must remain together “in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, until death do us part”. We are not against divorce, after all, every type of situation has a limit and it is up to each one to delimit their own. But it is worth appreciating and dedicating all efforts so that this limit is far away, that the good times are much more present in the memory than the inevitable difficulties that we all have and will have.
Mistakenly, happiness is linked to money. “How am I going to make her happy if I can't take her out for lunch? I can't buy a little valentine's gift", you may have heard someone lament. Every treat is valid, but monetary is secondary to the daily affection you can offer. If you don't have the money for a gift, give him a kiss and a hug. If you don't have anything to say, then listen. And if you are in a difficult moment, act to change it! The happiness of a couple is a joint responsibility, but nothing prevents you from putting in the effort and doing your part, as you are already halfway there.
- Written by Diego Rennan of Team Eu Sem Fronteira.
