This meeting today is aimed at people who, like me, once wanted to make significant or urgent changes in their lives – or in themselves – and didn't know what to do or where to start.
I chose to suggest something practical - with some initial considerations - for those who are in this condition and feel that they need to introduce new habits that lead to an improvement in the quality of life, especially regarding the emotional aspect (Other results can be perfectly consequences of this initiative).
Anyway, the intention is to give a “north” that can clarify and promote how one or another change that you think is important can be made.
But first, it is essential that I make the following observations:
- First of all: if you feel that you are currently unable – emotionally and mentally – to make any move towards an improvement by yourself, don't be intimidated and, naturally, seek professional help or support for this moment.
- The ideas here are just a creative way to drive your decision to start changing. You can find other creative ways and do it your way.
- Every significant change starts with simple, constant and seemingly small, but potentially powerful actions that will reveal themselves in quantum leaps that will take you more towards synchronicities. Try to give up a little of the linear thinking of accomplishing and conquering what you want or seek, after all, when we create our reality by transforming it, there is no longer an effective place for the linear concept in terms of results (unless you insist on staying with it, and I go ahead, the more you cling to the linearity belief, the more effort, the more friction and the more tiring the process will be).
For example: you know when you believe that just taking a certain path will get you where you want? And don't you see any other possibilities or ways of acting? Then. Be open and receptive. But calm down, being like this is also a process, to get rid of what you learned that works – and that is no longer working so well (the old formulas and paradigms).
- The important thing is to get started. And start every day. Don't just start.
Your ego, your mental, the one that also "lives" there in you, likes to put the little bike of chatter and sabotage to work. It will give you a thousand ideas that can take you away from the purpose of change. The ego hates change because it is insecure, afraid, and works on that basis. Important: Don't fight when he starts chattering to sabotage and discourage you, causing you to delay your transformation. (Don't attack him, but give him limits).
I warn those who judge, blame and condemn him: he is part of you and the secret lies in integrating him. Denying will only make the ego (and everything else we hate/deny) want to be seen even more strongly! All his parts will have to go through the change processes, and he won't be left out.
How to integrate? Doing what I recommended above. Tell him (and it can be out loud, and lovingly) that you're the boss from now on. That you love him, that you recognize him and thank him for all the contribution he has made so far, but now your inner wisdom is in charge. when you welcome any aspect that you consider negative, will be promoting their integration. Does that make sense to you?
When you choose to speak to your ego, be loving. Breathe, pause and say how who is communicating with a living part, present and not least, that makes up your being.
- Getting started requires determination and continuing requires…
You know those cries for help made by the person with fervor while he is in crisis?
Often, when requests are fulfilled in ways that would get you on the path to your goals, what happens? The person does not see the signs and the paths that would lead him to the best for a given issue. You may be suspicious and turn your back on what could be “there” the beginning for a change, but as we have preconceived ideas and prejudices, we ignore it. After all, it has to be in a way that “convinces” us in an attractive way… that comes from someone or a special event that magically catches our attention. Everything is fine. I know what it's like. They are the old ideas or preconceived beliefs that what is divine and good must be something perfect and, let's face it, our concept of perfection can be quite obsolete and wrong. We are in duality and a call or a solution can even come in the form of a challenge; or it can come very “simplinho” and discreet. Have you ever thought about it? So, if starting requires determination, continuing or sustaining the purpose requires trust.
- And what is the threshold between choosing right and wrong? How do I know if I might be running away (self-sabotage) or practicing discernment about my choices? Is the motivation based on escape or discernment?
I would say that the choice that later appears to you to be wrong, can still lead you to your final destination with honor. Continue the process and take what you would consider risks without self-criticism and desperate judgments. This takes practice, because what feels like a slip can be a good reason to go back to dealing with your centeredness again. It also requires what a lot of cool guys out there are saying: being in the present moment or pure intent.
What could this mean?
Training your centeredness daily will help you to be in your state of presence. Centering is being in our inner strength and the more “in”, we will be less victims and less subject to the vicissitudes of external events. We will not be insensitive, but we will be in a force that helps us to be less and less driven by external events/events without self-empowerment. They tend to involve us a lot, don't they?
Context: when we witness an argument and we take sides emotionally and we stay in that vibration or field of discord and injustice, and it takes us throughout the day. This situation exemplifies exactly what it means to not be at the center.
To be aligned with the center is to be aligned with the inner wisdom: more and more in peace, in harmony… “Oh, Karla, I'm not a budha!”
I know. Me neither. And it's not even the proposal (laughs). But… loved one, it could pass five, 10, 20 years, if we don't start, time will pass the same way, with the difference that you chose to do it now.
And, in short, I would say that this is all about beginning an intimacy with our inner divinity until it is fluid, without painful efforts. Laughter and joy is an example of this.
practical tips
Ideal for those who say they can't meditate, that they don't have the patience, that they get anxious, that this and that. So, it's for you.
What will you choose? The excuse or the initiative?
First, I suggest integration exercises to debate less. The “debate” I am referring to is the clash with your chatty ego that makes you impatient when you try to make yourself available to meditate and change. As long as you don't integrate it, you'll stay in the resistance, remember?
…the center
When I use the word center I am referring to some way of finding an inner balance to develop inner peace and strength. Centering can also be understood as opening up to your divine inner wisdom. The effect of this is that we stay longer in this inner wisdom without perceiving ourselves as hostages and on the sidelines of external events that distract and drive us so much (and take away our true power).
To begin with, have the idea that in order to achieve this centering and empowerment more often, we will have to allow ourselves to open them with small, rhythmic *qualitative repetitions, like the steps of a dance, until you feel that you can be in the flow and that it no longer needs effort or discipline (with a connotation of rigidity and sacrifice).
The flow is smooth and we want it to be that way: the right events, at the right times with the right people. Flow does not require effort, it requires alignment. But I fully understand that changes challenge the stability of the ego that struggles so much for control through fear, anger, judgment, criticism, exclusion and….resistance. (*i.e. do it with your heart or your purest intention).
To integrate
So, for every feeling of discomfort, discouragement, self-criticism, repulsion, laziness, denial or whatever else you consider a negative reaction, every dawn in which you will propose to do some new and creative activities, different from what it has been (and which has apparently given you stagnation, boredom, frustration or fears), breathe and say to it all: I welcome you into my heart with love and gratitude.
Repeat the affirmation with a break for deep breathing. Maybe you want to put your hand on your heart as you say and breathe and then feel love through all the resistance and fear as if you were a child crying out for love and security.
Feel, breathe deeply and repeat until you feel peace. Do this whenever you identify daily discomfort, it can be said silently (when you are in public) or out loud if you feel comfortable. The important thing is to do.
The base: accept and love yourself as you are. Give thanks, forgive yourself and forgive.
Sometimes, all it takes is to say a super “yes” to yourself, in a deep acceptance and honor for who you are, to bring out your divine so packed. For this, the second practice – out loud:
Ho'oponopono
First Name, I'm sorry, forgive me. I love you and am grateful.
The word Ho'oponopono means to repair or correct a mistake. Ho'o means cause and ponopono means perfection. In short, it is a technique for solving the problems we experience in our lives, taking responsibility for being exposed to that situation and healing through ourselves, getting in tune with God, the universe, the creator, so that any painful memory of the past is erased. by its power.
The reader will be able to find references through Google searches, especially in Joe Vitale's book – Limite Zero.
I suggest that you choose at least three aspects that you want to work on for 63 days. If you find just three little, see if you can keep more aspects than that, with quality in the realization. If ok, go ahead!
My experience was to repeat ho'oponopono for 3 x 21 days (63 days in a row), 33 times for each circumstance or person. I began to balance my relationship with myself and repeated as if I were speaking to my own soul/consciousness:
My name: I'm sorry, forgive me. I love you and I'm grateful.
Or, you can seek to harmonize with your past:
My past: I'm sorry, forgive me. I love you and am grateful.
Differential for this ritual: the uninterrupted repetition throughout the 63 days, 33 times a day, said with conscious intention, that is, being attentive and loving in the intention of each speech. The repetitions throughout the days, said aloud with intention, help to create new information for your subconscious and, consequently, promote changes in other levels of your being and a new vibrational pattern.
Start by paying attention to today, one day at a time, infusing quality and regularity – in your own way – into what you choose to practice.
1) You will be able to compose a list of things to solve weekly and put them as fixed and priority activities. Example: practicing the meditation you felt was necessary for x days, stretching or conscious breathing, reading prayer aloud. There are many ideas and suggestions on the internet, find the one that resonates most with you. Explore, research something well-guided, simple and practical to get started.
2) Another idea is to make daily affirmations and meditate on the meaning of each one. You can choose three positive affirmations a week and in a quiet time when you will not be interrupted, stop, sit or stand, breathe, repeat the affirmation looking in the mirror and say it out loud with awareness and a heart focused on the purest intention possible.
3) You can put your feet on the ground, grass or earth more often and if you don't, try the pleasant sensation of sinking your feet up to your shins in a bucket of warm water with three handfuls of coarse salt and stay there for, minimum 10 minutes at the end of the day.
4) Chances are good that resistance will be present. Recognize and practice integration if resistance and pain are present as you begin to contemplate the possibility of change from within yourself, especially in practice.
Fraternal hugs and until next time!
