We all know, or will know, that breakups are difficult to deal with. When we are abandoned, the feeling of sadness fills our hearts and makes us angry, sick in love, etc. During the period of separation, it is essential that we take time for ourselves to heal our hurts and wounds. But, how to love yourself after the end of a relationship? This is certainly a very difficult question to answer. That's why we've separated a practical guide to self-love for you to face this moment in the best way possible.
The first step to getting over a breakup is to surround yourself with people you really care about: your friends. They will make you laugh when everything seems sad. They'll get you out of bed when all you want to do is lie under your blanket, gorging yourself on chocolate, ice cream and popcorn. They will try to lift your spirits at any cost and remind you of what a great, loved and cherished person you are, and that no final relationship is going to change that.
Another important tip is to dive headfirst into your passions. That's because, most of the time, we end up associating love only with people, and we forget that love has many forms. When a breakup stains our feelings, or stains what we felt for someone, it is essential that we discover new love. Instead of directing your heart to something you're not ready for yet, focus on activities you dream of in life, on your goals. Maybe you want to start making your own clothes or even write the next great novel. Discover your passions, what motivates you, and dive in, don't be afraid of happiness.
Another good tip to face this moment is to warm your heart by giving love to those who need it. A dog for example. Go to a local animal shelter and hang out with a puppy for a while. These beings are excellent listeners and whatever the circumstance, they will put a smile on your face.
travel. Not to run away from problems, but so that you can discover the beauty of new places, of the world. When a relationship comes to an end, don't think that the world is filled with sadness and darkness. Connect with new places and experience new sensations, meet new people and enjoy the wonders that the world has to offer. If you have the time and budget, go somewhere you've always dreamed of visiting.
Exercise your mind. Grab your best clothes and your best friend and get out of the house, even if it's just for a run or a walk. Move yourself. Do something to keep your endorphins flowing and your body moving. You will really feel better. Take up your time.
Written by Flávia Faria of the Eu Sem Fronteiras Team
