How to deal with the holidays in a period of mourning 🆙

As the holidays approach, it is a cause for happiness and celebration for most people, but it is also a time of deep sadness for others. The weather of the year tends to add a little melancholy and loneliness for people who have recently or not recently gone through a period of grief after the loss of a loved one.

When a family loses someone or a friend is no longer among us, we tend to feel helpless and without reasons to celebrate, while those who are still here demand joy and celebrations. It may seem like a dead end and extremely difficult situation, but know that it is possible to overcome this period, even with grief in your heart.

Below are some tips that can help you out of this impasse. Check out:

– Be true to your feelings

One of the biggest difficulties is having to be part of the happiness and festivity that everyone emanates at this time, isn't it? Well, the good news is that you don't have to. Be true to your feelings, be sincere and don't be afraid to show others what's in your heart. If you feel like crying, cry. If you want to be a little more secluded, stay. Don't worry about what others will think or say, because those who really like you will totally understand your moment. Grief needs time! Anyone who reacts suddenly can relapse into sadness and get much worse. Respect your feelings and your own time.

– Rescue your memories

How to deal with the holidays in a period of mourning

Memories of the times you spent together are often a great comfort for when the pain of loss and longing tightens. Search your mind and heart for the dearest memories you have of the person who passed away. Allow yourself to re-experience each of these memories in as much detail as possible. Surrender!

– Let yourself be infected

Don't be reluctant if happiness wants to approach. It's natural to get infected by the weather around you. And always remember that you can and need to get out of this grief at some point. Don't feel guilty if you feel like laughing or celebrating. Life goes on for you and you have to celebrate. If your loved one were still here, they would be celebrating with you!

– Pay homage

Paying tribute, buying a gift or making the person's favorite dish can be a good way to feel their presence. Do what you want and are within your means to feel that the person you love is closest to you. The family will feel more united this way and the celebration is guaranteed.

Written by Roberta Lopes from the Eu Sem Fronteiras team.