I am no different. When I experience these uncomfortable feelings, false beliefs, or negative thoughts, I have become used to turning to people who are special to me. I am well aware of this. When I'm lost in my pain, I turn to others to feel better instead of healing myself.
When I was heartbroken last year, I called out to my mother all the time. Every time I felt alone and afraid of the pain, I picked up the phone. She did her best to help me, but she couldn't speak or do anything to stop my pain. She could only be there to support me and she was.
At one point, she reminded me: “You're the one who should get out of this. I can't do this for you.”
I needed to hear those words. I remember crying when she said that. I was crying because I was heartbroken, but also because I was afraid to face what that pain meant. Then I lay on the bed and said to myself:
“NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU, BUT YOU HAVE THE POWER TO DO IT.”
Realizing that no one was coming to save me was pretty shocking. I was surprised at how I expected something from the outside world to change something inside. This desire, often unconscious, prevents us from being our own salvation.
It doesn't mean nobody wants to save you. A lot of people would like to be able to do it and would even try. But they can't. No one can save you but yourself.
These are times when we remember our true nature. We live in a flux, trying to understand who we really are. Every time I go back inside myself, and see the power I have to heal and manifest, I feel all the possibilities rippling in my chest. Everything looks and feels different.
JUST BY CHANGING YOUR PERSPECTIVE IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE MORE CLARITY IN YOUR LIFE.
One of the simplest ways to get more clarity in your life is to practice breathing.. This is the fastest way to get you out of your own head and connect you with your soul. It's the best way to separate and see your pain in a deeper way.
It doesn't mean that you will feel good or that the pain will no longer be there, but you will be aware of your own truth.. Having these glimpses, in short, is what helps us commit to this work.
Before you even start it, your soul is already guiding you. You can feel the resonance with something you've read or heard. There are several series of synchronized events. One thing after another takes you to the place where you belong, like here. Your desires guide you. The more you pay attention to them, the more you can help yourself.
The soul that is guiding you knows you have work to do. This doesn't mean that you want to run away from your pain, it just means that your ego is revealing itself. Your soul wants you to commit to yourself. It is she who moves you forward. She knows you're here to live well. You are here to be brave, not to be scared and give up because you are hurt.
WE ARE ALL AFRAID TO FACE PAIN BECAUSE WE DON'T KNOW WHERE IT WILL TAKE US.
It's too strong for all of us. This is why we are all obsessed with consumption. We consume to forget. At first glance, it seems like a good idea. It's not good to feel pain. So why should we feel it? Who wants to feel pain? I do not.
But I feel because I know that if I don't feel it, I won't deal with it. If I don't deal, I won't heal and it will ruin me. I started living unconsciously and I'm super aware of it. If I let that guide me, then I'm not in accord with my soul and I don't want to take it out of the picture. If I let that guide me, then I'm not living the amazing life I can feel pouring out of my body. i am here to live.
WHEN YOU WAKE UP TO THE TRUTH, YOU CAN HEAL YOURSELF WITH A POWER, WHICH WITHOUT YOU WOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE TO USE.
You know where you're stuck. You know how to hear what needs to be heard. You know how to provide what you need. You've found the tools you need to work and you've been using them. You treat yourself with love. You honor your body, your mind and your soul. Healing your life means getting rid of the illusion that someone other than yourself can make your life better.
We are all responsible for our own healing.. We are here to support and guide each other, but we cannot do the hard work for each other. My clients work so hard. They show me that in every session. They are willing to wake up to the truth. They are learning to breathe their pain. They are willing to get rid of toxic energies. And I am supporting them, however they are being their own support as well.
ALL THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE IS WITHIN YOU
You can be guided and supported by others (which I highly recommend), but don't forget the fact that you are the one doing all the work. When we live for this truth, we access all our power.
Written by Amanda Magliaro Prieto of the Eu Sem Fronteiras team
