The path we are all looking for, the safe harbor, the target to reach. We look outside until we discover that it is inside. But we need each other to find this way. We learn more about ourselves when we interact with others and observe our behavior in relationships. We miss the opportunity to learn when we criticize or judge the other and don't look at ourselves. Often, what we are criticizing in the other is also part of our behavior.
Why is it that some people are assertive at work and passive at home? What happens internally with this person when they are relating at work and at home? Awareness of one's own behavior and the origin of such behavior are the first steps towards better understanding. The next step is to recognize and admit your own behavior, the consequences of attitudes and your way of thinking and feeling.
Experiencing the pain of disappointment, of disregard for oneself, of self-abandonment. The omission, the giving up, the fear that paralyzed him, the trauma that froze him, the anger and the dependence that led him to self-destructive attitudes. Perhaps there is regret for the way you have treated others. Sadness for the way he's been allowing them to treat him.
To face all this not as defeat, guilt or demand, but as a movement towards the future, towards transformation. Leave the baggage of the past in the past. Learning to do different in the present. The past must not be denied, but seen as part of learning, of experience. As a warning sign to avoid future repetitions.
This is no time for complaining, discouragement, judgment and punishment. No martyrdom and drama. Reaching the understanding that our life, at this moment, is a result of what we have been feeling, thinking and doing for a long time. See it as an opportunity to move forward transforming what is necessary so that we can have better results.
It takes courage and faith to come out of denial and take responsibility for the situation in which our life finds itself. At the same time, this recognition fills us with strength and a feeling of liberation. “If I am responsible, then I can change direction.” This is our power!
Believing that life is a sacrifice, that everything is difficult and that you are a victim, you can only attract sacrifices and difficulties. Life is true to our thoughts. Change your thoughts and you will change your life. What happens is that we often don't know our thoughts. We don't know which beliefs are governing and directing our lives. Watch your speech and your thoughts. See if they resemble these: “It is always like this, everything is difficult for me”; “It's always the same thing, people don't listen to me”; “It's no use, it won't work at all”; “He/she won't like me, I'm not interesting”; “Everything is very difficult, complicated”; “Everything is getting worse every day”; “Life is chaos”; “My little life is as usual”; "There's no way"; "This is not for me."
What do you deserve? Before answering, take a deep breath. Go beyond the clichés: “I deserve the best”, “I deserve all the best”. Take a few more deep breaths, silence the mind and let the answer come, accept the answer that comes. We can only change what we know about ourselves.
If you truly believe, with conviction, that you deserve the best, you will get the best.
If in some area of ​​your life the best is not happening, it may be that you have another belief or you don't have clarity and determination of what you really want. What is essential for change to occur is commitment to yourself and to the actions and attitudes that you will direct to achieve what you want.
Rescue the joy of finding yourself again. Be good with you and with life!
Fraternal hug!
