Not fearing the other and trusting the other intimately is to become one within a relationship
Relationship is a complex, arduous and adventurous process of the human being – I say this, because relating to ourselves is an unacceptable process, because there is a certain fear in the face of our intimacy.
Everyone is afraid of intimacy and everyone tries to create a cocoon, so that they can deposit all the flaws, weaknesses, frailties and so many other things that always correspond to our most intimate part, to our interior. Generally, when relating to the other – unknown and new – we tend to show only the best part of us. We forget that in the same way that intimacy brings us closer to the other, it also ventures us into ourselves.
It is essential that we have a certain knowledge about our intimacy, so that we do not create masks when relating to the other - lovingly, family, socially or in any way - avoiding that certain type of charge in the face of the unknown, avoiding seeking to fill a gap that we would fill in for ourselves if we had knowledge about our deeper selves.
Relationship according to our friend Aurélio is: “Establishing a relationship or analogy between; to compare; enter into the intimacy of; act of relating or relating; affective or sexual bond between two people; acquire relationships; etc."
However, relating goes far beyond being together – within any type of relationship. To relate to someone is to be present, and to be present, it is necessary to have intimacy – especially with ourselves – so that, in fact, we can better relate to each other reciprocally.
It is essential that we look inside that deepest part of us and try to find answers to the questions we ask about the other with whom we are relating. It is essential that we love and recognize the other as part of us, fully. It is essential not to create expectations, not to create demands or guarantees about something – since we are mutant beings and we are constantly changing. It is essential that we do not make comparisons within a relationship – whatever that may be. It is essential that we understand that no matter how much we know the person we are in a relationship with – regardless of the period, whether it be six months, two years, ten years, twenty years, forty years or however many years, we will never fully understand the relationship. someone else – and that is totally acceptable, since we are mutant beings. It is essential that we have respect for others and accept them for who they are. It is essential that we be truthful at all times, on all occasions and without fear. It is essential that we be who we really are. Dialogues are essential. It is essential that it goes far beyond our morning breaths, holding hands, social media status, constant selfies and being together. In addition to everyday prose, momentary laughter and other things.
