When Our Greatest Superpower Becomes Our Greatest Enemy
Woman is very strong. We fell, and we didn't stay long moaning on the floor. We are hurt, and we give the other side of the coin. We are warriors and superheroes. And our superpower is simply the power to care. We know how to take care of our own lives, generally speaking, we are the most dedicated to studying. We seek our place in the job market, even though the system is full of injustices. We live fighting to be ourselves and get out of the “perfect woman” pattern. We've managed to lead a lifetime of competition between women, even as we're struggling to change that. We are used by a lot of men: we are hurt and left at the bottom, and we still manage to bounce back. We give birth, and many of us take care of the kids on our own, while still making time to work and go to the gym.
And to top it off, we are still able to take care of others, whether animal or person. We have more empathy in our hearts than men. We are able to look at someone who has already wronged us and put the hurt aside to take care of them if necessary. When our companions get home, even though we are fighting, we manage to leave some ready-to-eat food in the fridge. When our children are ungrateful and hurt us with their words, we can still hug them and give them a smile even though our interior is destroyed. So, we found our problem: having this great desire to take care of others, we end up giving ourselves too much. We want so much for the other to smile and be happy, that we donate even what we no longer have in our hearts. You know when you arrive tired, people from work or your family have already sucked everything, and you still try to give that reserve of love to the other? That reservation was yours self love. Because a woman when she loves is not the same as a man who gives a part of himself to the other, the woman gives herself completely.
As Uncle Ben would say: “Great power comes with great responsibility”. We are so dedicated to taking care of our careers, personal lives and each other, that we end up going over the top sometimes. We come to the point where Superman returns to his homeland still having his weakness for kryptonite, in other words, we arrive at the moment when our bogeyman becomes our reflection in the mirror, our essence. So try to keep balance, see how far it's worth exhausting yourself and donate, think more about yourself. To cherish your own happiness and peace is not selfishness.
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