Trauma during childhood can lead to problems in adulthood.
Childhood experiences can directly influence the way you view your life in the future. The way you relate to other people, traumas and emotions are consequences of experiences acquired as a child.
Canadian author, human behavior expert Lise Bourbeau highlighted five emotional wounds, which often negatively influence children's lives and can lead to problems in adulthood:
Children have no concept of time, so the absence of parents for a few hours can be understood as abandonment. You have to make it clear whenever you go, but you will come back. A simple example is the beginning of the school day, the child believes he will be left there, so a conversation explaining that he will be in school for a certain time is important. It is necessary for her to understand that the people she loves will not always be around. This feeling needs to be very well formatted in adulthood.
Fear of not being loved by parents, family and even friends can psychologically hinder the child's development and the formation of his identity. If she is not treated well, she may understand that she does not deserve the affection of others and, consequently, she does not value herself as a person.
Educating is not an easy task, repressing is even less so. But, if the child makes a mistake, it is necessary to correct and be firm, for that the conversation is always the best option. Beware of derogatory terms and fighting in front of other people, humiliating a child can trigger serious psychological problems. And if this happens often, she may understand that she needs to humiliate other people in order to feel good.
Children have great memories, so only promise what you can actually deliver, otherwise you will become suspicious of everything you say. Parents, above all, must be confidants of their children. If they don't trust you, it will be difficult for you to maintain a peaceful, non-lie-free relationship throughout your life.
Nobody likes to be blamed for something they didn't do, so always be careful not to commit injustice. Feelings of indignation, anger and helplessness can transform a child's life and make him or her become an extreme perfectionist and authoritarian adult.
Text written by Natália Nocelli from the Eu Sem Fronteiras Team.
