2) Take three minutes to bring newness to your life
According to studies, “novelty wins love”, says Dr. Stood.
The idea is that we can “bring newness where love is”, by donating three minutes of mindfulness to the loved one.
What Dr. Stood does is check emails as soon as he parks his car in the garage so that when he gets home he can focus on his family as if he hadn't seen them for a month, using the following steps:
a) be genuinely interested in what they have to say
This is, in fact, one of the most appreciated techniques in coaching: putting yourself in the position of being curious and practicing what we call “active listening”.
b) give creative compliments.
This is an excellent way to get the other person's brain into a collaborative state.
c) not trying to “improve” anyone for three minutes.
I would say this is part of active listening: listening without judging.
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