The biggest problem is when a person enters a relationship and over time discovers that their partner is taking advantage of or abusing them in some way. When we talk about abuse, we are not just referring to physical abuse. We also reflect on situations where one takes advantage of the other in some way and coexistence ends up being increasingly harmful.
If you are in a situation like this or similar, see below 4 tips that we have selected for you to learn how to deal with this scenario and get rid of an abusive relationship:
Analyze and reflect
Take a good look at your love life today and start to analyze and reflect on what you would like to see different. Often, we are so confused by the situation that it is difficult to know what is really wrong. If it's difficult to identify negative patterns in your partner, talk to people close to you who can help you. You need to know what's hurting you so that, when you end the relationship, you don't end up with a person with the same characteristics again. Therefore, this analysis is very important.
Less emotion, more reason
As much as emotions want to avoid conflict and even fear of being alone, Focus on your rational side. Leave the soft heart a little aside and use reason when it's time to finish. If the partner questions, show with arguments why dating is no longer good for you. Frank and open conversation should always lead to the side of reason, because at these times emotion is stupid and can make you postpone this decision to get rid of the unwanted relationship.
Self knowledge
Look for a method of self-knowledge, whether with therapy, esoterism or spiritual practices. Self-knowledge will help you to have more self-confidence and with that you will lose the fear of ending up alone. Those who know themselves well are not afraid of not dating anyone for a while, because those who really love themselves are not dependent on another person, even more so when that other person is wrong in some way.
change yourself
One of the reasons you fall into an abusive relationship with someone is because you don't recognize their strengths. and, thus, let yourself be devalued and inferior by the other person. The only way to not fall into this mistake is to change yourself. Seek to grow and evolve as a person. Every new quality you discover or develop in yourself will help you to be more confident and not put your head down in abusive situations. Improve who you are as a person and you will see how much easier it will be to deal with those who try to take advantage of you in some way.
Written by Ricardo Sturk from the Eu Sem Fronteiras team
