The month of May is the month of the Roman goddess Maia, a deity that was celebrated at that time, considered goddess of the earth and flowers, responsible for the plants that were born in spring and, therefore, the month remembers her name. But the clergy, in their Christian calendar, ended up adapting this month considered “pagan” to also celebrate another female figure, Mary, the mother of Jesus. feminine, it's our month!
And nothing fairer than talking about “empowerment”. The meaning of the word is linked to the condition or state of having powers; the word of English origin empowerment has been used quite a lot lately by the media when it wants to relate the feminine image. But does coloring your hair green or wearing a stiletto heel really define the posture of an empowered woman?
From suffragettes in the struggle for the female vote to Coco Chanel herself, who created her own fashion by getting rid of corsets and the exaggeration of “frills”, we could mention several women in history who made their history. Empowerment is not in the rules, otherwise the women's magazines of the 50's would continue to be very well sold and accepted by today's women. Magazine columns, often written by men with female pseudonyms, dictated fashion and etiquette to society's “well regarded” women.
In a capitalist world, to be empowered is to be economically and emotionally independent, currently many young women manage to acquire their university degree and many women occupy extremely important professional positions in positions previously held by men.
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There are beautiful and intelligent women, but dissatisfied when it comes to love and no matter their marital status, insecurity is always the same. Just this week, I came across a type of ad on social media, in which they offered a tutorial for women who are already in a relationship. I won't go into details, but I interpreted it as a kind of tutorial so that the woman could save her relationship. It was a title something like this: “Respect in the relationship between two”. This caught my attention and shocked me a lot, because the cost of the course seemed exorbitant and I noticed that there were over a thousand comments from desperate women wanting to sign up for such a course. Then I asked Facebook why they sent me this type of ad and the company explained that because I was “married” I should be interested in this type of content, of course I warned that it was not my job and they stopped sending me. I would like us to do a brief analysis on this:
On the one hand, it is understandable that Venus women resort to some “sentimental coaching” to try to understand what is happening on Mars, I understand and respect the work of these professionals, who point out where they should invest in sentimental conquest and where they should identify when it comes to a real trap, because with the passage of time and some bad experiences we know that men are very strategic and nothing fairer than the woman learning to play in the same coin.
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On the other hand, I believe that the modern woman of any age group must be able to discern what type of service she will hire, since enrolling in a course in which she teaches a woman to keep her spouse inside the house and stay by her side, even him showing “coldness and disinterest in her” (because that was between the lines of the first sentence seen in the advertisement), makes me wonder how low a woman's self-esteem can get.
Respect is good and we like it
I don't consider myself the owner of the truth, who am I for that? But it bothers me that in a patriarchal society (yes! It's still a sexist society, don't be fooled by the "empowered woman" commercial, this is far from empowerment!!!) many women think that to be complete they need to do everything to have a man on their side, who don't even value them, just to please Greeks and Trojans.
It is evident that every relationship falls into routine and has its crises, men are not perfect either, however, women do not have the obligation to try to please them all the time, the woman is not always to blame for the end of a relationship. a union, sometimes, love became just friendship or the guy is really a complete idiot, pardon the word.
There are also the most serious relationships, the toxic ones in which they involve verbal and physical aggression, so it is already a case of an analyst and the help of family and friends.
Not forgetting the economic submission, which some women still experience and will have to make a radical change if they need to get out of this type of worn-out partnership. Often it doesn't even involve the emotional anymore and, yes, the comfort, after all, it also contributed to building the heritage that the couple has today, but the man does not always recognize it, it involves endless fights in justice. And she will not always have the support of third parties, whether to take care of her children, because she needs to get a job, since the negotiated pension is not always fair, or she simply needs to go back to school to be able to grow professionally and support her family. on the level of life they had before.
How many times do I see girls who travel around the world, are monetarily successful, have masters, doctorates, etc. and have to deal with family and friends who demand a wedding from them? It's not ugly for a 50-year-old man to be the bachelor, the "taker", however, for a woman of that same age it's the end to be the "spinster".
I believe this also applies to those who are married: marriage has to be for two, love and respect have to come from both!!
A woman has to look for a course that makes her feel good, that promotes her quality of life, such as learning a foreign language, doing yoga or dancing, acquiring culinary knowledge (because she loves cooking, just for that) etc.
A happy woman also attracts good things, like a nice partner who values ​​her, if that's her goal. The woman has to live for her own well-being, so that she can be a good companion, mother, daughter, professional and empowered.
