Surely at some point in your life, you have docked your boat in a port called – LONELINESS; this seems natural in the path of all of us human beings. The question is how long did you stay? or Does it still remain there?
Loneliness is a state of mind that means a certain isolation or abstinence from contact., relationships, people and, in fact, it could be a balm for our Self to heal itself from clashes, relationships and contacts; but it seems that despite not being considered pleasant, many take refuge in it, get used to it, get sad, conform and end up making the port their home.
Let's clarify something, port is port, a place of disembarkation, loading and unloading, supply, change the crew, do the maintenance and then leave; but if you've made your home in the harbor, maybe you're protecting yourself from new adventures, or really believing that you're better off on your own and that it's a lot of work to navigate and follow.
Dr. Edward Bach, English physician who created the first Flower System, classified in his work a group called Solitude; and described three types of lonely personalities.
The type Impatiens that because it is too fast, it doesn't really establish deep bonds; staying alone with his thoughts, talents and ideals, because that's how it works, that's what he believes.
The type Heather, has a loneliness of himself, as he is unable to hear himself and especially to hear the other, as he establishes a wall that separates him from himself, from his experiences and emotions, and then he only has to talk, talk and talk.
The type Water Violet is reserved and does not appreciate close contacts, is a good listener and mentor, but does not talk about himself, keeping emotionally distant from people and relationships.
What do these three personalities have in common?
The difficulty of actually getting involved, allowing yourself to be seen, feeling exposed, vulnerable and human and to deal with this the wonderful Bach Flowers can make the company of flowers pleasant and healing.
It seems that every time any of us feels hurt, instead of asking for help, we choose in solitude a good place to lick our wounds, worship disillusionment and disappointment with people and situations.
Solitude will then be the flight not to live, not to sail, not to act, not to enter the boat of life and take the helm; face the tides, the winds and the storms, but finally arrive, disembark and follow.
If you've been enjoying solitude, be careful to know the right time to leave it and move on, find people, projects, pleasures, because everything can be wonderful if you really have your own good company.
Make poetry and sing your song, or remember a beautiful song like this:
Rhymes, of winds and sails
Life that comes and goes
The loneliness that stays and enters
flinging me
Against the pier”
And, as your heart holds such secrets, raise the sails and reveal the secrets of the sea of life and continue to be a explorer of new lands and then... Goodbye Solitude.
